Re: sandi's rules feeling forced ... yeah. To folks just landing here, and in the first few weeks and months, they are naturally going to be forced. But I think the idea is to work those rules until time starts to heal and create space for self-confidence to grow. Because no one likes to feel like a begging, pleading, rejected fool. And we are all worth so much more than that.
That's just my take on it, and hopefully it offers hope to people who find themselves here and can't *naturally* and immediately detach from their WAS.
I'm so so so so soooooo happy for you, OG. You "worked the steps" and have come out the other side, a clearly stronger and happier person. It can't get better that that.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
