Alpha Step At A Time #5

[Onguard]

Alpha, I have not kept up with your entire sitch but I have read the recent developments. I will just humbly offer some suggestions based on my own experience. First, allow your feelings to be just as they are. As much as I wish I could have turned off my feelings and detached from my ww emotionally I simply had to let it run its natural course. And it DID finally run its course. (My w and I had been together since we were 13, so it took a bit longer than I would have preferred). Don't fight them or beat yourself up for feeling a certain way. Allow the feeling to be there but trust that the feeling will change eventually.

Second, focus on you. Become the best man you can become. Challenge yourself in every way, in your career, physically, spiritually, intellectually, as a father. GAL! I see you are going on a date and I think that is awesome! Just being with a woman and proving to yourself that you can have a good time with someone else will be uplifting.

Third and lastly for now, BELIEVE that you will be ok no matter what, because you will. There were many, many days where I was convinced that the opposite was true. I felt like I would always be hurting without her. I was wrong. The hurt eventually stopped. Women are attracted to confidence. All women, they can't help it. Women are attracted to men who are successful, who are leaders. Men who can be strong but loving at the same time. Become that man! You have it in you. We all do. A man like that is going to be better than OK, he is going to be great!

I will keep following your situation and I will be pulling for you.