I get a lot out of being here. Posting, reading and even getting 2*4'ed. I even (can) appreciate Mr Bond's criticisms. Just at times I feel he is overboard. Sometimes he is right, I admit that, but sometimes he seems to be missing the context comments were even made in.
I have learnt so much in the short time I have been here. I sense skepticism form pretty much everybody, but I really have. i'll talk more about this another time. I have changed my behaviour. I'm sure people around me have noticed. I have noticed. And I dont see myself falling away from this and back into old habits (I hope), but it still feels .....empty.
First of all being here is like eating an elephant. The task is very daunting at first, but the only way to do it is one bite at a time.
We have all been in the same place as you, including Mr Bond. I was sure that I could find a CURE - Nope didn't happen. Our journey is not all that much different than our spouses, although we may be miles ahead of them. Until we hit rock bottom, we wont do the work and change either, cause people dont change until the PAIN of changing is less than the PAIN of staying the same. I wish this was easier, it is not!
I can tell you the basics are all contained in my very first post. Detach, GAL, and take care of YOURSELF. Including eating, sleeping, and exercising.
I have someone else that I am advising that works fours jobs and sleeps maybe 2 hours out of every 48, I have begged and pleaded with him to take care of himself, did he. NOPE Even after totaling his car in a car accident, so I dont know what will work. I know that I can't FIX him as he is just a poster on a marriage board.
Please get some sleep Pyrite and take care of YOURSELF!
