You can not CONTROL her, only you can control yourself! You do understand that right?
I do Cadet.
Another way I can think of it is in terms of this "contradiction". How can I let go to the extent of giving her my blessing so to speak, AND at the same time want to resurrect the M. OK, I suspect that this may be exactly what I should be aiming for, but every 2nd post (exaggerated) seems to be about action to take in order to solicit a positive response. This doesn't gel for me.
I understand it doesnt gel for you, no one said that letting go is giving your blessing.
It has taken me a very long time to understand all the dynamics that occur here. I have read over 30 books on the subjects and taken some online classes. I am only going to say DO THE WORK and you too will understand. Knowledge is Power.
