New to this. Need support. Separated.

[Cadet]

I love this advice but I am so broken I just can't seem to see the forest for the trees. What's us a 180 for me? How do I decide? How do you find YOUR 180?

I think I'm going to bring this post over here.
You're 180's need to be for YOU.

For instance an alcoholic can say I'm going to 180 my drinking I'm going to stop drinking rum and drink light beer instead. is this a good 180?

I can make suggestions to you but it is up to you to decide.
I think you have to stop you're fixing, codependent,conflict avoiding ways.

That's a tall order, I understand.