Ripken - Trying LRT and going dark. Now what?

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Also. I've told her on two different conversations tonight that I want divorce well, not screw her and go through a mediator together vs a lawyer. She said that's what she wants too. It's really been the first open communication and conversation we've had since December when she first told me she wasn't in love with me. I want to stand strong and told her while she's living in the same house she has to come back every night. Won't explain that to the boys. She agreed. Really need help to balance taking a stand, gaining respect back but no pushing so far that she gets angry and no longer wants to mediate. Especially because she hired a lawyer without telling me because she was unsure how I would react and felt I would retaliate. Also trying to protect myself financially even though I still want not need too have this marriage in a direction of healing