New to this. Need support. Separated.

[PureHrt]

Thanks Mr.Bond. I am struggling I had to face OW at event for my child. My H was not sitting with the rest of our typical group which was his choice. I felt bad for him but I did not go over. I miss H. OW's child had an event after and she stood around for a while and then for the last portion of my child's event she went up and sat up beside my H with her friend.

I got the shakes it made me feel physically ill. It was in front of an entire group of people and in front of our child. I know other woman walked up and sat beside him but he could've sat politely for a moment and got up and gone to join some of the other parents not me but he didn't and he sat there for a good 45 minutes knowing how it would make me feel knowing that she's tried to hurt me.

I wanted to confront 0W. I didn't. At end of event our portion I waited for H and then asked him to step outside and around the corner. He could see how upset I was and I laid it on the table I told H that it was bigger than a faithfulness issue it was him choosing to be friends with somebody that was trying to start rumors and trying to hurt me. I explained my position clearly my child was not to spend any time in her company or her family's company. If he made the decision and it is his decision to remain friends on social media and be friendly with somebody that was choosing to try and hurt his child's mother and him then I would be changing how we interacted. He was apologetic he didn't understand why he would have to get up and I said for his son and for me. He says he doesn't like all the drama that everybody else is throwing around and I told him he's causing it by continuously seeking out drama with others. I pointed out that in sitting with somebody that's known to be that way and our child is getting older that their friends would know and it's hurting our child for him to choose to sit with that person at a public event. I pointed out that every time he hurts me he hurts his child.

We did discuss some relationship stuff but more at a high-level we went back inside after about 15 minutes to our child he was bringing child home when he brought child to the house later he did come in and apologize again and opened up about where he's at he's not seeing anybody. I reiterated my position that it was his call but that it would be very hurtful if he chose to remain friends with this person. My challenge is not acting affectionate when he's being nice when he's saying all the right things. Well we left off on a good footing it's now three days later and while I had deactivated my social media I checked in today to see if he was still friends with other OW and he is.

He sensually I believe it is him exercising his rights to do whatever he wants and not show feelings for me I believe he wants me to appear at difficult. So my question do I know enforce what I had said which is our interactions will be dramatically changed? Before I knew he had not unfriended this person we saw each other at child event this evening and we had a very good conversation almost flirty but I didn't know this them. I have been trying to prepare myself for this but I don't think there is preparation. I clearly explained that this was a disrespect to me I told him I would not be disrespected that way that this was bigger than a romantic relationship it was a respect for me in front of our child. Advice on this would be very appreciated. I am trying to read so much and I feel unequipped for how to do this with all of my husbands specific challenges. I know I'm not perfect my biggest issues are typically taking care of him and taking on his mistakes myself and owning his issues. I want to fix him I've always loved and cared for him. I don't know what to do here.

I feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of information.