W won't stop EA with OM!

[Train]

Rubi,

Just to be clear because I just read back over the last thing I posted to you and cringed for a second because of the way I worded it. Do not repeat your need for a NC letter/full transparency plan. I should have been more specific in saying that if she wants to have sex OR move back into the bedroom OR reconcile OR etc., you state what you will need (NC letter/transparency plan) and then drop it until she complies.

Restating boundaries only weakens them. Giving her chances to plough over your stated boundaries makes you look weak.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but you haven't given her the "NC/transparency talk" yet, right? Because she hasn't asked you what it will take ... ?

Don't pull that card out until she uses those words or something similar. Then only use it once.