Nole_Girl (1) Intro

[Zues126]

Thanks for replying. Yes, WAS's behavior can be disturbing. It's easy to feel like a victim already, then when you see the way they act sometimes it can validate those feelings. But really, you say you're not the same person you were...well, maybe in a couple of years he won't be the same person he is now. Not fair to forgive yourself and not allow him the same opportunity to grow.

Again, every time the right answer is to look in the mirror. It's not about assigning blame, comparing who's worse, or anything like that. It's just about doing the only thing you can- taking 100% accountability for your situation and doing what works to change yourself.

You mention you've read a lot of books and have grown a lot. For me I find it useful to talk about the breakthroughs I'm having, the changes I'm making, the things I see differently. It's a positive log of progress I can go back to, and hold myself accountable to. I'd love for you to share some of the things you are working on now and how that's going.

Keep posting.