The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[DFE]

Boundaries? I started out saying that I would not allow him to cake eat as the last 2+ years of our lives I feel like he got that from me. I told him that I needed space to move on with my life. I think that upset him as we got into an argument and he left. And now of course all of those thoughts are running through my head going what if he was trying to build on our friendship and see if we can make this work. Did I ruin that? Did I screw up our kids chance of having a family again? The usual thoughts.

I was doing ok but he starts sending me mixed messages and that sets me back. In hindsight I see what I could have done differently and know that I had a good chance of helping our marriage. I just don't want to screw that chance up again.

So to answer your question I don't know what boundaries I have or should have. My DB coach agreed that he didn't sound like someone who was certain this was a right move and to just work on the friendship. I just don't want to be stuck emotionally unable to move on. If he is 100% done then why ask me out as a family or say that we should all take a vacation together?