I am going to ask for further clarification if that is ok?
Have you read the book Codependent No More. That may help you understand how couples interact when they come to depend on each other.
You said that your peers judged you, how was that exactly? It sounds a little like mind reading to me. You want to prove yourself over and over again?
That sounds like it is U turn judging himself critically. You used to love your work? There must still be elements you love.
What exactly is it about parties you dread? Is it a particular type? bbqs, dance, dinner or Xmas. What do those parties have in common? Could you have a birthday drink with a friend but not attend a stag do? Can you go to a children's event and share with other mums and dads? On holiday do you go to the pool?
There isn't much harm in having a prop to relate, a dog, your children a sport or participate in a game, if that makes life easier.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
