W called and asked if it was a good time to talk. We made a little small talk and then I told W that I had just a few things to say.

I essentially read Toots edited version but complete with dramatic pauses.
W stopped me a couple of times in first paragraph to correct me and say that our M wasn't all bad, etc.

When I finished, W thanked me for what I said. Then, W proceeded to tell me she paid her L's retainer today and started to try to convince me to just let her L work it out for both of us.

I responded by saying I don't think that would be the best as that L is your L. I then reminded her that I didn't want a D.

W seemed surprised and said, "You mean, you won't sign?"
I simply rephrased the last sentence from my script.

W then started recounting all the reasons why she couldn't get back together with me. I simply listened and would occasionally respond by saying "I know" or "I understand." W said that she wants to see me happy with somebody else.

W then asked if I would agree to sit down and discuss a parenting plan. I replied that I would and that it was important to work through that.

I then told W that I pledged to be amicable in this process and wished her a good night.

W replied that it felt like an odd way to end conversation and W asked if I was mad. I replied that I was not mad and I was completely calm and at peace.

The entire conversation couldn't have been more than 10 minutes. It never once got heated or antagonistic.


Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15