Excellent advice from Wonka and Starsky. Rubi you seem to have the resolve to do this correctly and you are getting the correct advice.

I know the consequence of sweeping it under the rug, don't do that. Fix it right this time around. Hindsight is no fun. You can do this, I am rooting for you and your M.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15