Winhamn intro - D in process, WAW

[Winhamn]

"More recently, I was very withdrawn. I distanced myself from her."

Why?

I have no ability to be intimate or share myself. I isolated myself and put walls up. I'm seeing a new therapist in an effort to address the issue.

Is she right? How did you treat her if you distanced yourself from her? Were you grouchy? Angry? etc.

I ignored her, I talked to her the bare minimum, I did not give compliments or show interest in her. Angry vibe, but not openly displaying it. Grouchy. Not sharing anything about myself.

Again, I'll point to the "as if" behavior (which, btw, the book is very clear about what this means and it's not "act as if everything is ok").

"I have a lot of emotional problems, and they've steadily gotten worse over the last six months, as I've been depressed and really stressed out."

From what? Have you done anything to correct this?

I was heavily depressed. I have a restricted license (meaning I can't just up and take the kids somewhere).

I've come out of the depression and am seeking help from a variety of sources, including individual therapy and counseling.