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I think I advised you a while ago to set boundaries about him taking things from the home. The time has come to sit him down, advise him that he needs to make a list of what he wants and then you can either box it up or be there when he comes to get it. Once he has gotten all of his "stuff" that is identified on the list, he will need to understand that's it. Household items are not up for grabs and should remain in the home.

Question...do you need this first aid kit? Do you have one in the home? If so, then give it to him, but emphasize the list has to be compiled and given to you and once those items are picked up, that's it, i.e., he's on his own. If you don't set boundaries, this will continue. I know you want things to go well between you, but enough is enough. Are you over there telling him what you want from his stash of stuff? If the answer is no, then you need to learn how to say the two letter word "NO".

Time to set up a date and be there when this move takes place or you will discover later on that there are other things missing. Give him the black matching luggage, i.e., plastic bags if he doesn't have boxes. The luggage works quite well and doesn't take up as much space. Oh, another thing, if he says he can't take it all that day, then advise him it's got to picked up or you will set it in the garage. I have found that they make excuses about coming to get the "stuff" that they've left behind.