You sound really good. I am sure you have the ups and downs as we all have experienced. But I would say you have the right attitude.
It's very hard to determined if our Hs are dealing w/MLC or if they are just lost at some point in life and want to taste freedom, adventure again. Maybe they are very bored with the family life.
The truth is that I tried my best to go in circles looking for the answers of all my "Why this and why that", and it was just that... circles.
There is nothing we can do really, we can't control what they do or want. We can control ourselves and our lives and try to make somewhat the best of it.
With time I have been learning to let go a little more. It hurts, but I have been better for myself lately.
Hope you can find peace during this transition time, have hope and keep doing what is best for yourself.
