Alright gang, I have been thinking about what to say to W all day. I actually had a previously scheduled DB coaching session today and I got some pointers from them too.

Here's what I got:

"Obviously, our relationship had some serious issues. And I know that I bear a lot of the blame for those issues. It must have felt absolutely awful being in a marriage where you didn't feel valued, supported, or appreciated. I know I hurt your heart beyond repair when I didn't cherish or love you like you deserved to be. I know I failed you in so many ways and I'm sure this left you feeling empty inside. All of these are valid reasons for you to want a divorce from me.

However, I do not believe that divorce is the right thing for our family right now. I will not be initiating or pursuing a divorce at this time.

I understand your reasons for wanting a divorce and you are free to do as you wish. I will strive to be amicable and respectful through this process."

Thoughts?

Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15