If she attempts to do any of that ^^^, simply tell her the same thing you would if she mentions reconciliation: You need a no-contact letter, approved and sent by you, and a full transparency plan. This is the bare minimum of what you will need to begin to piece your M back together.
Meanwhile, continue GAL, detaching, etc.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014