We ALL have issues that we bring to a M. Would she be right in assuming you can't change or modify a behavior that would make her relationship with you more satisfactory? No? Then why would you assume she can't learn to change some of her behaviors? She can. And I'd say it's likely she WILL *if* she has a reason to.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014