Hey Closer, I feel like I've been there, first the regret that she got caught, then the regret that she let herself down, but nothing further.
I would definitely tread lightly with this - much caution. Sometimes it just seems self-serving for them.
You're right U-turn. It's just self-serving.
Last night, she asked me if she could get the wifi password and I hesitated. She instantly said she didn't want it if I was going to have a problem with it. She then asked me again what I needed to trust her. I was honest. I told her that I can't trust her as long as long as she is having an A, she is divorcing me, and she is removing me from the daily lives of my children.
She became upset and stated again that she feels terrible, broken, ashamed. All her lying and deceit finally caught up her with last weekend causing her to have a breakdown. She has noticed how much I have changed and sees that the changes are real. She feels awful that she kept lying to me while I have been working so hard and she doesn't want to do it anymore. OM has agreed to NC while she....
The "OM has agreed to NC while..." just made everything she said b.s. in my mind. I was at a loss for words.
Maybe I shouldn't have told her what I needed to trust her. I was nervous about that, but it kind flew out of my mouth. She's doing everything she can to make me happy, but I know she's just manipulating me in order to avoid confrontation.
The kids are happy to have her home. I'm happy that she keeps telling me she is going to work on the house. I'm not happy it's hard as hell to detach with her at home.
Take it slow. This is a business deal. We're selling a house. We're co-parents.
M:42 W:43 T:14 M:10 S:9 D:5 W filed 12/22/14 EA 12/31/14 PA 4/10/15 D final 5/13/15
