Thank you for responding. I understand and agree with your advice. I consoled her a bit yesterday but I limited it for for the reasons you stated *strength*. I will continue with what I'm doing until my W brings up reconciliation.
I believe in the no contact letter and transparency. I will settle for nothing less.
The only problem... my W has always dealt with problems by avoiding them. Her family does the same thing. They all avoid conflict at all costs. My wife has almost never dealt with anything "head on". With this type of personality, I imagine she will try to reconcile indirectly by just attempting to go on as nothing ever happened. It would shock me if she actually addressed this issue directly.
What if she never discussed reconciliation and just tries to reengage our marriage like nothing ever happened? Should I stop her and be the one to bring up reconciliation... and what will need to happen?
Also, she has always valued independence. She is extremely adverse to any actions that take away her independence (such as transparency).
I know it will be a tuff pill to swallow for her but again, I will settle for nothing less than a no contact letter and transparency.
