Can you describe your M history? You never really explained what your M was like before. What were the causes that made you withdraw? How did you treat her? The more detailed you are the better.
During our happiest times, I would spend time talking with her, try to make dates, ask her about her day, etc.
More recently, I was very withdrawn. I distanced myself from her. Our interactions gradually dropped off. She turned to her phone and her friends to fill that void, to look to people who would show interest and care in her that I would not. She recently spent a lot of time telling me I never tell her she is pretty, that I only tell her I find her physically attractive.
She is estranged from her mom, from an early age. I think she needs to know someone cares about her, thinks she's worthwhile, and can show her acceptance and love.
I have a lot of emotional problems, and they've steadily gotten worse over the last six months, as I've been depressed and really stressed out. The result is that I've withdrawn, put up a wall between her and I. I read the DR part about "Act as if" yesterday. It really struck me.
I've been behaving "as if" she doesn't care about me, "as if" she's been unsupportive, "as if" she would choose anything else over me. My behavior and attitude were adjusted accordingly. And now, I've sealed that fate.
Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34 D8, S5, D2 T:16, M:9 BD + D: 4/3/2015 EA Confirmed 5/6/2015 Separation under the same roof
