W won't stop EA with OM!

[Train]

You continue doing WHAT WAS/IS WORKING.

Do not console her. That is the absolute biggest mistake you could make right now.

When she asks you what it would take to fix things, THEN you tell her she will need to write a no-contact letter to OM. You approve of it. You send it by mail or watch her send it by email/text. (Be sure it's actually going to him.) I can find my H's NC letter for you if that would help. Then, you insist on a full transparency plan. You get all usernames/passwords to all her accounts. Detailed cell-phone billing comes straight to you.

You do not want to skip this part, and you don't want to lose your testicular fortitude right now. Trust these words. You have ONE SHOT at this. Do it right this time.

But don't throw this out there until you know she's committed to working on your M. She hasn't come right out and told you that yet. And chances are, if you coddle and console her right now, she *won't*. She'll see you as too easy to fool.