I really thought spending time together would help him see the light thru the trees that we work well together & our kids are happiest when we are together. We have had some pretty wonderful family outings together lately & I thought that was moving us forward [...]
Would the attention he shows me be considered baby steps (him standing so close to me that we are pushed up against each other, him looking at my mouth like he wants to kiss me, him asking to spend time with him & the kids)
I am not in any position, to give you any advice, but I still put my 2 cents in.
I had my aerials only on my W during the first weeks. And that in an obsessive way. "Did she just smile?" "Why did she use just THIS phrase in the conversation?" "Why did she sent me a picture of S10?" "Oh, she asked me how I was. Why?" "She invited me for a coffee while waiting for D14. What is she intending?" "She just called me darling. Was that really by accident?"
I discovered, that those thoughts (as understandable as they are) are just sucking your energy. Get your focus off your H. Get the focus on YOU and the kids. As long as you have not developed the ability of mind-reading, you will never know for real what he is thinking. And I guess at this point his thoughts are not that what you should focus on. Let him think whatever he wants to think. Get detached.
I know this is said so easy, especially as I am a noob myself. I also have those thoughts from time to time, but it gets better from day to day. Will there be backsliding? I guess so. Stop focusing on things, that you have no power/control over.
Listen to the veterans of this forum. They are honest and they know what they are talking about. You will find awesome advice in this place.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
