Ripken - Trying LRT and going dark. Now what?

[Ripken8]

Thanks joe. I think that's the biggest difference between my situation and rubicons right now. His wife admits to an affair and won't stop. Mine doesn't. So spending my time reviewing things she doesn't or doesn't do to try and convince or not convince myself she's having an affair isn't doing any good. I asked her and she said no. So back to square on. She's either not having one and deserves space and trust or she's lying about it and there's nothing I can do anyway, so might as well use the time to work on me. I have decided if I find proof of an affair or she admits it, I will immediately let her know I won't be in an open marriage and put up boundaries. Will not ignore it. But right now, today, dwelling on is she or isn't she and continually asking her is doing more harm than good for her and me. I've already decided I'm going out wed and Friday night this week and skydiving Saturday. Ready to get a life. In between those days is time spent with our sons and working out and self help/these threads. Thanks again guys!