Joe thank you for making me laugh a little. Maybe I should help him pack. I actually thought about that. Funny my H was married before me. He fell in love quickly because the sex was great (do you see a pattern here?) and got married. Apparently, she cheated on him after only a few months and he got mad and threw her out and all of her things in the yard. I have had visions of doing exactly that and letting him come back to find it all outside and the locks changed.
He told me he told OW that I found out about the trip and she suggested they postpone it. He thinks this is a loving, selfless gesture on her part and it's really just about postponing having to tell our kids daddy has a lover.
So hopefully some of you can help me. I can't force him to leave but I guess he will if I push it--I'm getting there but so afraid of the result.
I think it is time for me to stop covering up all of this. I really don't want to be vindictive or have him feel I am betraying him. DR seems to say you don't go out and tell people, but how does that work? He really has no consequences for his behavior otherwise.
And what about our kids. As Vanilla has said I'm sure they know on some level things have not been right for a long time and surely they have heard the arguing and see how unhappy I am but not sure how to talk to them. I feel like it would be best if we talk to them together, but am concerned that he will not admit the OW--also that he will blame them for OUR issues
Don't know if anyone who has been through this with kids of similar ages has any suggests but they are my #1 priority now
