From your post it sounds like you got things just right. Congratulations on the turn around. Like you say, take it slow, be sure of what you want. It seems instant full recommittment is a dangerous short term fix. Have your wife meet your core conditions and be sure to praise her for the effort she puts in when meeting them. Now the hard work begins. Good luck!
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.