I think it's easy for us LBS's to tell ourselves our WAS was a dud. Makes the loss smaller.
To me, though, we're cheating ourselves by belittling how devoted WE are to our M's.
I'd rather acknowledge that my M meant the world to me, it was a huge loss, I screwed up and am learning from it...and while my WAW is a seriously flawed human and in many ways I'm superficially relieved not to have to deal with her, the truth is that I believe we're all capable of growth, change, and better behavior when we find a way to work better together. So yes, it was a huge loss. HUGE.
But I still have my commitment to M and the fact that I didn't rewrite my own history as a coping mechanism, that I chose to respect my spouse and forgive them their humanity.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
