Lisa Thanks for dropping in. Sounds like this whole vulnerability enchilada will be difficult for the both of us.
Vanilla Actually- STBX and I always had one joint account for household expenses and savings, and our own individual accounts with a certain percentage of our incomes to do with as we pleased. It was something else that made the whole computergate thing perplexing.
Betsey - Thank you for dropping in while you have so much going on in your life. I'm very sorry to hear you had such a difficult weekend, but glad D18 was able to bring you comfort- there's no beating PJs and movies some days.
I hear what you are saying about the Passive Aggressive thing. My DB coach mentioned this when I described him as well, although she also thought he was in MLC (which I've never quite bought into). Its become more obvious to me as time has gone on since BD, and I've replayed all these old interactions - I will probably have to invest in some reading on this topic. I'm up for trying to make this better - I will have to do something - since at the moment he's no where near meeting me even a quarter of the way.
