So I know that I should let him go. I'm just scared that he is right and I hate to be the one to push him out. Every time we talk we go in circles because I say something really straight forward and reasonable and he twists it into the past or something negative or irrelevant such as saying that I am using our kids.. I know I am right that he is actually doing that by saying I should stay in the farce of a marriage that he suggests for their benefit. I just need some help with the words to say what I want clearly and not let him confuse me
AHW- First of all - he's not right.
Second- you could be a silver tongued orator and say everything perfectly and its not going to make a difference. Not in the condition he is in. It's a time for action and not words. He is now spending family money on this. In addition to seeing a counselor, I would urge you to speak to a lawyer, sooner than later. Your husband is not behaving in any kind of honorable way - please protect yourself.
