Nole_Girl (1) Intro

[Zues126]

I reread the last couple of pages. This along with many other posts I've read this week has inspired me to write the following sentence:

*********The biggest threat to the LBS's growth is the WAS's behavior.**********

See, the WAS acts like a brat. Yes, your H is living the single lifestyle. He is treating you poorly. He broke his vows. He may have some commitment issues, or not be mature, or chew with his mouth open.

He's giving you plenty of opportunity to take your eyes off of your behavior.

And if you do you'll feel...what? Vindicated? Righteous? Empowered ("I deserve better!" is something I see a lot from LBSs on this board)?

Well, you can do that if it makes you feel better. But by going down that road you won't grow.

So which do you want? To be right? Or to grow and have a shot at your M back? And actually a better M with a man that mysteriously acts like a better H in a healthier R?

If you want to be a victim we can give you sympathy, but we can't give you your H back. I'd really like to see you make the decision to let your H go and focus on your own growth. How much do you feel you've changed from your first post until now?