Yup, M, bottom line - inappropriate and makes you uncomfortable means it needs to stop. Good on you for being prepared to do that.
I am sorry someone is reading you on here. That isnt appropriate or necessary either. Shame on them. I know its a public forum, but, if they are a friend they shouldnt be doing it.
As far as the revenge thing..I wouldnt worry about it, so long as it isnt something you are always thinking about or plotting. . ; You will let go of that as you continue to move forward. After awhile, it is will be like...who the heck cares what they do? They have to live with themselves. You just need to stay away so you dont get any of it on you.
Ok, so I promise you I will not let you get any cats. But you have to promise me you wont run over any more innocent signs. Deal?
You are doing great, M. You are where you are supposed to be...on your way to being where you need to be.
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