Alpha Step At A Time #5

[Complex]

Glad to see how your thinking has changed alpha.
Here's some tips because I'm 1-2 weeks ahead of you in my sitch lol:
1. Dating will change your perception. Don't forget we are victims of ups and downs, highs and lows. So your feelings towards W might even change again. It's part of the process of fading out our feelings for WAW. Plus you might get a decent confidence boost from meeting someone else. This might be noticed by W, increase her interest in you, etc; which might you look at her a little different again. Sounds complicated. It is! I'm not a fan of these kind of 'games', I hate it. But it's part of our sitch.
So just be aware of what the new situation might cause. Stay true to yourself and you can't mess it up.
2. Good you want to be honest with OW. Don't overdo it tho. Be a gentleman but also do not talk about your past. It's ok for OW to know the facts, that you are S for a long time and have children but reconciliation is not an option anymore. Keep it simple. If she asks for details tell her it's still too private for now bc you barely know her but you don't have any secrets.
Just blend your past out. Focus on the now on your date. Give your date attention, be yourself and make her laugh. Rather let her talk more and ask questions and listen. You'll notice you won't think of W..at least for the night
3. Reflect on your feelings afterwards, but don't take it too serious and give yourself some laughter. Give it a thought "am I truly ready to move on into another R"? Most likely you are not it's too early. But a simple date could at least be a step into to right direction.