Complex #7 - the green(-card) mile

[Complex]

Ontheup:
Starsky was referring to not going to the friends good bye party and doing what he suggested (leaving early etc)

Family...Ya it's a sad thing, most of them promised me to stay in touch with me. But as time passes on, so will they all. Life is long. But they will always have a special place in my heart. And so will W. She still is the most wonderful person is met so far in my life. That might change, and hopefully it will one day. But I didn't give her enough credit in the early DB stages. That cost me some credibility and sympathy early in my sitch. I've a much clearer view than ever. And most importantly I feel like I can forgive her. I almost feel like I already did. And myself.

But Ontheup, first of all I'm very sorry that W's family doesn't get in touch with you. That's very hurtful. But if I was you, I'd contact them. You never know what their reasons are. Maybe they are afraid, feel awkward, wait for you to talk to them first. I'd break the ice. Of course stick with the rules and don't talk bad about W etc.

Yea, we still life together. Separate rooms, I'm in my office on a fouton which I upgraded with an extra mattress topper. We still do each other's laundry (we don't fold it for each other), sometimes we watch tv together, talk, go to family events, encourage each other. But our lives are busy and our schedules different, so we don't see that often at all.

I loved what you said. "I'm scratching my head...Why are we actually breaking up????" That's a good one. Things got better, much better between us. But she doesn't feel love and attraction for me anymore. Plus she believes we come from different planet, have different life goals. There's truth in it, but not even close as much as she thinks.

Another thing: one of her best friends brother is getting a D. Young M too. It was weird how W told some people yesterday about it. My perception was she told people with the intention "Look guys, it happens all the time, even in our circle of friends,..so it's not the end of the world is it?". Maybe I'm overthinking this but it seems like a good validation from herself for her own plans.