Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

[JAS84]

Well, we talked some more about the situation. She told me she didn't think I had any right to say what was best for our son, that I have had 4 years to provide that input. I validated, stated that I may not be an expert, or remotely qualified in her eyes, but I am learning, just like I should have been doing all along.

We talked about how she has made serious sacrifices in our separation agreement in order to give me the benefit of the doubt (That sacrifice being her agreement to week-on, week-off, 50/50 custody).

She cried over how upset she is that in 5 days she walks away from the life she has built over the past nearly 15 years. I validated again, shed some tears myself, and mentioned that I was upset that this could be the last time she walks out the door as my wife, and as my life's friend.

Conversation about OM came up, and based on our conversation earlier, I said that in my gut, I think he has much deeper feelings for her than she has for him. She agreed (but I won't take that to heart).

I asked her what her plans were for moving day, and she replied that she didn't know who was going to help her yet. My gut tells me that she had planned on OM and others from work helping. I told her that if there was anyone there I didn't know, that I would be there, as I do not allow strangers into my home without meeting them first.

Her reply was that nobody would want to help her if I was there because it would be too awkward. I asked her if she has made me out to be a monster to any potential helpers, and she said no. I told her of my gut feeling about OM having planned to help, she replied that some of the managers from her work offered to help her, and she turned them down.

I checked her text messages, and immediately following the conversation, OM was texting her about how they would need another guy, and how they would manage it, followed by an "I love you so much, and I would go to the end of the world to be the man you deserve". (One weird thing about her texts: I never see her replies. I believe the messages only show up when he initiates them as SMS, as I believe they both have iPhones, and use iMessage for most of their conversations, which I can't see.)

I never thought my W could be so damn sketchy! Oh well, this is the path we're on right now.