Yep it is not always easy swimming in the dating pool. Especially when you jump in the deep end! Hahaha.
My STBX is the same as yours. He tries to keep some sort of connection with me. I agree that they do know when you have truly let go. It is not something you can fake. Not to sound all new age weird here but I believe we are connected through our energy fields. If you are constantly thinking about someone the know it and feel it in their subconscious mind. When you do let go and break that connection I believe they feel that too.
When I had my SD over for a visit last week my STBX said he would come pick her up. I had for some time been distracted by the Fireman so I was no longer spending much time thinking about my STBX. Nor was I contacting him unless I absolutely had to. When he came to pick up SD he came up to my suite. He hugged me hello and stayed and chatted for a bit. Then when they were leaving I was approaching SD for a goodbye hug. She was putting her coat on so while I was waiting for her he turned around and said " I'll hug you" and did. I just chucked to myself when he left.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
