I’m feeling so incredibly low and hopeless lately. The official “mandatory waiting” period for the D began a few days ago. I signed the papers right away, knowing that any procrastination or stalling on my part would make things worse (i.e. make H want D even more). On top of that, we’re both moved out now (I moved about two weeks ago) and we’re selling our house right now, already have a buyer. stbxH and I have had to communicate a lot and spend time together getting the house ready, etc. Since following the 180s and DBing, things have been much warmer between us, but in a “friend zone” way, and I’ve seen him get emotional a few times about the house. Anyway, I asked my DB coach if I should ask stbxH for an unspecified period of NC after the house sells (which is soon) and keep things a little less buddy-buddy on my end until then. She thought it was a good idea because she said it sounds like he’s been cake-eating and needs to know what it really means to lose me. Problem is (and our phone session was up before I could ask coach this), I’ve had this fear that he’d just stop talking to me after the house sells, other than brief questions about D process (which should be final by mid-summer). Given the pattern, I can’t imagine why he’d initiate any contact at all after that since our communication is almost entirely tied to the house in some way (regardless of how much better we’ve been getting along lately). SOoooo basically, do you guys think I should beat him to the punch and ask for NC? Or would that just cause more harm? I’ve got so many mixed emotions about this. And whenever I talk myself out of either scenario, it’s because of fear. ****siiiigghhh***
