You have to let go. From what you have said you wife is in no way interested in trying to resolve anything and work on the marriage. She has gone (for now at the very least) You only need to communicate when it involves Your children. Anything else can go through your solicitor or can be ignored.
You need to do what makes you feel better and move on and if that is having no contact what so ever then do it. At the end of the day what is she going to do, divorce you?
Its painful I know but only way I felt better was by letting go, stopped doing the pick me dance, stopped the pursuing, stopped any relationship talk, stopped the snooping and just thought to my self im worth more than this. You can not compete with OM while she is head over heals in love with him. It never ever works. Im not fully NC as we do talk about D8 and I am friendly and civil but I have stopped all of the above and feel a dam site better for it.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
