New to this. Need support. Separated.

[PureHrt]

"I was looking for some DB direction on whether to lay down boundaries in a certain circumstance. I did have to face that circumstance and would really have appreciated some thoughts."

In terms of the woman who is after your H, there is nothing you can do about that. You can't control what your H is going to do with this woman. All you can do is control your own actions. If you don't want your child being with this other woman's child, then don't have him around. Although you need to remember that it's not the child's fault.

I was asking about the two specific boundaries I outlined. Ie stating that this OW never be around my son (nothing about her son??) and that I would state to H that if he chose to be friends with someone who so obviously wants to hurt me and cause problems that how we interact would be impacted. My posts also stated that [b]I see OW as a symptom not a cause. I was asking how to set boundaries not how to stop her.[/b]

I have posted history but I have always taken responsibility for my reactions. I know I am not perfect. I totally know. I'm just not sure how it impacts how to set boundaries AND I am conscious of not posting too much. I am still considering removing the full history.

Feedback on how much to post from others would be greatly appreciated as I may still delete that post.

Thanks.