A new M--a new me, a new him!

[reachingHigher]

Hello all!

Just read my last update.
Our cash buyer for our dome home did 2 extensions of contract so that it was under contract for 60 days. Then the night before closing he texted the other realtor and said he wasn’t going to get it. I waited a couple of days and put it on the market again, securing another contract. Then the original cash buyer changed his mind and wants it again. Such a drama!

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Had an awkward situation with H this weekend.

H told me last week he had something to run by me. That always means I won't agree.

He wanted to take a female colleague out for a drink. This is a woman that he used to work closely with but she moved away about a year ago. I was so relieved!

H told me she, at that time, was about to start her own MLC. They were very, very close. She had attended drinking parties with him. The three of us dressed up for Halloween a year and a half ago and H got totally smashed and acted VERY inappropriately with her in front of me. So much that I had to pull him off of her and tell him her H wouldn't appreciate that.

We also have been out together (the 3 of us) and H wouldn't touch me (hold hands or put his arm around me) in case she might feel uncomfortable.

Well she was back in town for this past weekend and somehow they came up with the idea of the 2 of them going out for a drink. I said if your W isn't welcome or you don't want to bring this girl to our house b/c our boys don't like her (which is true) then something is wrong.

So here's how it went. I had an Open House to run in the afternoon. The girl arrived at our house at 6 pm. I purposely avoided coming home until 9:30 pm. I really felt it wouldn't go well with me here. I was already feeling highly annoyed.

So H and girl went in man cave and drank beer for 2 1/2 hours. No texts from H during this time. Boys were in the house and very upset.

H doesn't feel he did anything wrong. I told him today I felt like I never wanted him to do that again. It was a terrible example to the boys and I didn't agree with it.

H just listened to me. I know he doesn't agree with me.

It's not like I have a problem him being alone with women that are mutual friends of ours but these drinking women...always have a sexual undercurrent and that bothers me. And the fact I know she doesn't like me or want me around. The boys have hated it when she visited H at our other house but I was always there.

I find her incredibly boring and bordering on stupid with nothing in common with me. The boys say she has the "drunken laugh" whether or not she has been drinking.

And when I went to her and H's goodbye lunch at an expensive steakhouse last year (just the 3 of us...me obviously being the 3rd wheel)...I left to the parking lot or bathroom or something to give them some time alone. When they said goodbye in the parking lot, I had my head turned. H said she gave him the "never gonna let you go" hug and cried. And H was morose for days.

I know men and women can be friends and maybe nothing inappropriate went on but I still feel angry. I have almost zero compassion for him.

Justified?