New to this. Need support. Separated.

[MrBond]

"I was looking for some DB direction on whether to lay down boundaries in a certain circumstance. I did have to face that circumstance and would really have appreciated some thoughts."

In terms of the woman who is after your H, there is nothing you can do about that. You can't control what your H is going to do with this woman. All you can do is control your own actions. If you don't want your child being with this other woman's child, then don't have him around. Although you need to remember that it's not the child's fault.

"How much marriage history is required? As we've been together 22 years and facing challenges on and off for 8-10 it would be quite lengthy. What would be helpful for response that I haven't already posted."

Read through everyone else's threads that talk about the M history. In your posts, all you've done is detail your H's problems and what he's done, his A, etc. But you are 50% of the relationship. Explain to us how you met, the good times and rough spots. What issues you may have had in the past and problems that you may have been a part of, etc. The more we understand the dynamics of your M, the more we can give you detailed help.