Don't bother trying to contact W "one more time" for she's an adult and knows the deadline. Boy, many of the WASes are in a hurry to file and then when push comes to shove, they don't lift a finger. Funny, huh.
Yeah, spewing isn't fun at all. I think we do need to put a boundary on disrespectful communications. It is all there in my Boundaries Cheat Sheet.
To make sure the friends keep coming over, it's always handy to have goodies at hand. Then you'll get to know their friends and other parents.