Put one foot in front of the other

[Cherry]

This is some great advise from zephyr and I definitely agree.
This is his journey, and no amount of speaking does help. It only Spurs them on to do the opposite- like a rebellious teenager.
The positives here are you are still both under the same roof- and you are still on talking terms. With regards to the "friend" thing, I'm not saying it's the same thing for you- but that is what my h claimed the ow was.. He eventually told me he had feelings for her but didn't think she felt the same way. It was only when he left her that he actually told me it had got physical..
Anyhow- I also have a great feeling about this, and you're a strong lady. What were you like when you first met? What was it that made him fall for you? You need to get back in touch with you- both for your sanity, and for your S. And h will notice, I guarantee. My h began to see me just getting on and has told me that is what brought him back to me. He realised that I am still me - and would say the ow just couldn't come close to making him feel the same way.
I am praying for you. Have a great time calling with S. Truly enjoy your child. My Baby and you lot are the only thing that kept me sane. Ultimately you want to protect him from ever knowing something is wrong.