I am not going to mind read, but I have seen it before. She is being nice because she wants you to cooperate with her plan for D. She is feeding you breadcrumbs to get her way.
I would be hesitant discussing anything with her lawyer with out one of your own present as well. Even if you think this is something you can work out together. In which case, I would take W to meet a new mutually agreed upon one. Anyone she went to first who at any point can become adversarial towards you is not someone I would even respond "hi" to on the street because that "hi" could come back to haunt you.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16