You may have to set some boundaries since your h uses the word "flexible" to suit his needs. I know you are trying to be "flexible" because of your son, but there comes a time when you will need to stop being so readily available to make things easier for your h to see his son. Set a schedule and if he misses the time or date, then he'll have to wait until the next day he is suppose to visit w/his son. If you don't, you are going to find that your h will take advantage of you w/no thought to you, your son or your schedule.
BTW, many of the mlcers will have bouts of illness. It's the stress, guilt and shame of what they are doing. I'm not surprised he's had stomach problems and hasn't felt well again.
Please take care of yourself. Think about those boundaries...okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
