Wayward Wife and the Way of LRT

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Pilot, thanks for sharing your story. I believe your situation is somewhat similar to what I'm experiencing right now. W's mom encouraged MC out of the gate. W's parents even survived a bout of infidelity themselves. I just think they are standing behind their daughter right now. I'm sure with W living there, they've seen the mood swings up close.
But, they are being fed a one sided story with key facts omitted.

GB, I think you're right about PI. I did mention a specific outing that W and OM had together to OM's W. W could be wondering how I knew about this (mindreading, I know). W actually wrote it in her planner. W also marked OM's birthday in planner with hearts around it. I took pictures of both.

Two pieces of circumstantial evidence that could point to downward spiral of A:
-the previously mentioned returned book that I believe W gave to OM
-based on phone records, W always talked with OM on the way to work. However, the past two nights, this is the time W has decided to call to check on kids. (I know, this evidence is fairly weak)


I will think some more about custody arrangement. It has worked out fine thus far. Actually, the current arrangement even favors me a bit due to the nuances of W working overnight. However, I would fight for a structured arrangement of this ends up in a D.

I don't see my W making any changes in her living arrangement right now mainly due to financial reasons. W has no independent savings and all the marital investments are in my name. This is probably another reason why W wants a quick D. Unless her parents loan her money, she won't be able to get her own place until she's able to save up some money.

In regards to the kids, I definitely want joint custody and 99% of the time, it's what W says she wants too.

In regards to her L and pending threat of D, I have no problem agreeing to meet with W's L or with W to discuss paperwork at this time. But I won't agree to anything. It could be helpful, like was mentioned, to see what W is seeking.

Have a great week everybody!