It's a nightmare. Wake me up 2

[koalada]

The last 2 days I have started with my next 180 "make necessary decisions and behave as a father and head of the family".
Usually I would have negotiateed with W about who will talk to neighbours, who makes the phone call and so on. I would have been insecure and unreliable. This time I just took charge of the tasks and I guess she has noticed.

D14 is in deep emotional trouble. She is afraid of school, spends way to much time on the internet and had her "coming out" (with 14!?). She is all messed up inside. She is seeing a therapist since a few weeks and tomorrow there will be a parent-therapist meeting. She has always behaved older as she is, this is nothing new to us. But this time we are thinking about a stricter approach to take her out of this "I am an adult and the life of an adult is exhausting and I can not deal with it"-thinking. I have told W to wait for the meeting tomorrow and to make a decision in the next days, without procrastination. We will let her know, that there will be more boundaries and parents she can rely on, although she might not like it.

The last years, this family and M has been like a ship with a depressed and weak captain. It was difficult to rely on me and so W became desperate and saw the ship floating around without any clear direction. This needs to change and I am working on it.