WAS asked for divorce today.

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I still feel like I should put up a fight and have her serve me the papers - even though she told me in a text that this would prevent us from having a friendship.

So in her mind she can have an affair and you are supposed to deal with it and remain friends. However, if you do not help her get a D that you do not want, she says she cannot be your friend. This is just a product of her crazy line of thinking. I would make her serve you. My W filed D a year ago in May. I never went and signed anything. And she never served me. Make her serve you. Once served you normally have 30 days to reply. I would wait as much of those 30 days as you can. You can certainly pick a lawyer in the meantime, but why rush it.