Affair Over but Stuck

[Zues126]

Ha, a spew jacket is what us LBS's wear so the spew that rains out of our WAS's mouth just washes off us.

I know what you mean. For a long time our self worth has been tied to the mood of our partner, it can be strange to stand up and not cringe when she stomps her feet.

Note- I am NOT casting off women and saying "we're better off without them". Just not healthy to give up ourselves.

Also- I am NOT point all fingers at your WAS. She was just doing one part of the dance. Had you danced differently, she might have as well. She might've been frustrated you didn't take control of your emotions in the M and was hoping you would.

As for D, definitely a funny topic. I just posted on my thread about how much I believe in M...yet I am filing for D. I originally said I never would, but some posts of Sandi's changed my mind. I realized I was not filing for the "wrong" reasons. I talked to my DB coach, my IC, my mom/dad...unanimously I was told it was time. And that my WAW becoming 100% accountable for her own life was the best thing for everyone.

I'm not urging you to file, but I will say there is a lot to sort through there as to when it makes sense. I'm tired, maybe if you want to talk through this subject I can share more tomorrow. Goodnight and take care.