Surviving the rollercoaster by getting off two.

[Karma12]

Hi Lisa, thx for chiming in. I hadn't heard from him at all in 48 hrs so I sent him this. I will post his reply and mine


Hi

I'm sending you a note here as it is easier than a looooong text.

I'm feeling a little confused so rather than keeping it in my head or making choices without asking I thought I'd share what I'm thinking/feeling.

If you read back over our messages here and our text messages following we seemed happy to have reconnected and excited to see each other again. You flirted and I flirted back and it was fun. I appreciated that we had been able to share some of how we both had been feeling. We agreed we both wanted to try dating again and we made a date.

I noted before the date you were texting very frequently and although you had always been friendly I was enjoying the new flirty banter. It was fun and made me smile. It also created for me some of the chemistry I had been waiting to feel.

Date #5 came and I was happy to see you. This was when we shared our first real kiss and it felt really good. I thought yep there is chemistry and something to build on. After finally having some physical closeness and it feeling good I was glad we had reconnected.

The week following we continued to text but I did notice that the flirty banter wasn't there. Even when I attempted to create it a couple of times. I thought maybe you were just comfortable with me now? Then we had date #6 and I felt at first we had taken another step backwards. Although you were friendly there was no romantic gestures. A quick kiss hello. This I found confusing since we had been closer on our last date. We held hands going to Sammjs but not in Whiterock. As the date progressed I actually was thinking that maybe you weren't attracted to me after all. I decided to just enjoy the evening with you and not worry about it.

When we got home I was actually surprised you agreed to come up. I was even more surprised when you took my hand and held it. Then a more romantic kiss goodbye.

So what I am saying in my long winded attempt is I feel like I am getting mixed signals from you. I feel like you are running hot and cold with me and I don't really know why. Am I one of many? Are you confused? Or am I way off base?

From my perspective I have been happy to meet someone (you) that is in my age group that is attractive, has a real job! Lol does not have little kids and likes to work out. We have just scratched the surface of getting to know each other. I'd like to know you.

. If there are other things or places you would like to go on a date I am open to it. If there are things you want to know about me ask. If the convo we are having is not interesting to you take the lead and change it. If you want to kiss me....kiss me!

I do have a full busy and happy life. I like workout, hangout with friends and family doing many different things. I am very involved in my career. I have made time for you because I like you and do want to get to know you. I'm only dating you. It's not my style to poly date.

I hope you don't mind my sharing my feelings. We have known each other for a few months now. I felt I should be comfortable sharing.

Hugs